4 Lies You Need To Stop Telling Yourself

When it comes to moving forward in your career, it’s important to have a clear understanding of your current state to assess what your next step should be. Often professionals have a warped sense of reality that keeps them hostage in a career they despise. The truth is, if you want to be successful in your career, you’ve got to quit telling yourself these lies:⠀⠀⠀⠀

“I don’t know how to do anything else.”

THE TRUTH: You’ve likely developed lots of transferable skills throughout your previous experiences, and you just don’t know how capable you are because you have not taken inventory. 😨 The thing is, all jobs require certain core soft skills like communication, time management, adaptability, etc. Completing a skill gap analysis will allow you to analyze just how much you CAN do.⠀⠀⠀⠀

“My company needs me too much for me to leave.”

THE TRUTH: If you were to leave tomorrow, the company would find a replacement. It’s nothing personal – just business. Sure, when you play a key role on a team, and they value your contributions, it’s going to sting when it’s time to part ways. The question becomes, do you really want to live a life of regret just to avoid a moment of hard goodbyes?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

“I have to do this because I went to college for this.”⠀

THE TRUTH: You can’t allow a decision you made in your late teens/early twenties to determine the rest of your life. Would you marry your toxic college boyfriend/girlfriend just because you chose to date him/her then? I pray your answer is ABSOLUTELY NOT! Keep that same energy with your career. So you majored in Political Science, but you want to work in tech, DO IT! I certainly did (more on my story to come in a later blog post) 😅⠀⠀⠀

“I don’t have any other options.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

THE TRUTH: You have as many options as you believe you have. Here’s the thing – the possibilities are endless, but it will take work. So the question becomes, how much work are you willing to do to get to where you want to be?

If you’ve been telling yourself one of these lies, today is the day to finally acknowledge the truth! Once you know the truth, it’s so much easier to start moving in the right direction.

Need assistance determining your next steps? Drop me a line, and let’s chat!

 

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The Settling Cycle: The 5 Phases of Faked Contentment

If I were to ask you if you’ve settled in your career, what would your response be? The hard truth is that most people don’t even realize that not only have they settled, but they’re actually currently stuck in the settling cycle. And it’s this vicious cycle that keeps many professionals from ever achieving career satisfaction.

PHASE 1: “I Want Something New.” 

The self-induced illusion of your phony contentment is finally starting to break. You’ve actually realized that you aren’t happy in your current state and would like something new. But, here comes the fear of the unknown with a dash of anxiety trying to paralyze you and keep you from moving forward.

PHASE 2: “I’m Just Starting To See Some Success, So I Shouldn’t Leave.” 

This is where you start to over embellish whatever small victories have come with your current state. For example, you could be well aware that your current position hasn’t allowed you to utilize most of your talents, knowledge, or skill set. Yet, you might justify this by citing those 3 times in your year with the company that your boss gave you a little creative freedom or the opportunity to take on a small task that you enjoyed. News flash sis, that’s not enough!

PHASE 3: “My Team Really Needs Me Now, So I Shouldn’t Leave.” 

This idea that employees should stay with companies or positions that don’t benefit them or make them happy just because they “need” them is toxic. It’s the same thing as that ex from your past who guilt-tripped their way into trapping you for way longer than necessary. Similarly, you need to just rip the bandaid off and facilitate the “breakup.” The longer you stay, the deeper the attachment. Also, let’s not forget that if your company needed to cut labor costs to reduce overhead, you’d be out the door in an instant. So, let’s not kid ourselves by thinking this is anything more than “just business.”

PHASE 4: “I’m Desperate! Now, I NEED Something New.” 

This is the point where you finally accept that you’ve been procrastinating this entire time and that you should’ve taken that leap long ago. So, you’re freaking out! You’re allowing all these feelings of time wasted and “ever nevers” to push you to your breaking point.

PHASE 5: “I’ll Just Take Whatever I Can Because I Don’t Have Time To Be Picky.” 

There it is. That devil of a predicament where you almost trick yourself into repeating the cycle ALL OVER AGAIN. It’s that “rebound” of jobs. This phase will have you taking any new job opportunity you can, just so that you can have that shallow, short-lived satisfaction of saying, “I left.”

If you’ve found yourself trapped in the settling cycle and would like some assistance freeing yourself, I invite you to join the 200+ others who have grabbed a copy of my 20-page Ultimate Career Guide. Because honestly, it will NEVER be “the right time” until you plan your time RIGHT.

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Playing It “Safe” Is Cancelled

All too often, I encounter professionals who have settled in the realm of “safe.” This doesn’t come as a surprise since our whole life we are taught to put safety first – buckle up when you hit the road, wear a helmet while riding your bike, and don’t run with scissors, etc. It all makes perfect sense!

The issue is that we automatically make “safe” the solution when it comes to any risk. In the examples above, playing it safe makes sense because the perceived risks are completely devastating, and there is little to no perceived reward. But what about the cases where the perceived risk is small while the perceived reward is huge? In these instances, playing it safe becomes the dangerous option!

We often hear warnings about taking big risks, but we rarely hear warnings about playing it safe. Because the effects aren’t typically super immediate or obvious, people don’t often connect the dots. Instead, before they know it, they end up with a life of regret and “what ifs.”

And this, my friend, is why I became a career advancement strategist!

My goal is to help professionals change their career narrative. There are too many people settling for far less than they deserve because they fear failure or fear the unknown.

If you find yourself playing it safe, here are some tips to level up: 

  1. Begin with the end in mind. Don’t just take risks for the sake of taking risks. Set goals, identify the associated risks and rewards, then evaluate the potential outcomes.
  2. Start with small risks. The more comfortable you get with risk-taking, the less fear will cripple you.
  3. Understand that failure is not final. The truth is, at some point, we’ll all fail – just research your favorite icon! It’s all about how you learn from your experience that will determine your fate.

And always remember: it’s never “too late” to make a bold career decision! If you’re not sure where to start, drop me a line and let’s chat!

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