4 Lies You Need To Stop Telling Yourself

When it comes to moving forward in your career, it’s important to have a clear understanding of your current state to assess what your next step should be. Often professionals have a warped sense of reality that keeps them hostage in a career they despise. The truth is, if you want to be successful in your career, you’ve got to quit telling yourself these lies:⠀⠀⠀⠀

“I don’t know how to do anything else.”

THE TRUTH: You’ve likely developed lots of transferable skills throughout your previous experiences, and you just don’t know how capable you are because you have not taken inventory. 😨 The thing is, all jobs require certain core soft skills like communication, time management, adaptability, etc. Completing a skill gap analysis will allow you to analyze just how much you CAN do.⠀⠀⠀⠀

“My company needs me too much for me to leave.”

THE TRUTH: If you were to leave tomorrow, the company would find a replacement. It’s nothing personal – just business. Sure, when you play a key role on a team, and they value your contributions, it’s going to sting when it’s time to part ways. The question becomes, do you really want to live a life of regret just to avoid a moment of hard goodbyes?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

“I have to do this because I went to college for this.”⠀

THE TRUTH: You can’t allow a decision you made in your late teens/early twenties to determine the rest of your life. Would you marry your toxic college boyfriend/girlfriend just because you chose to date him/her then? I pray your answer is ABSOLUTELY NOT! Keep that same energy with your career. So you majored in Political Science, but you want to work in tech, DO IT! I certainly did (more on my story to come in a later blog post) 😅⠀⠀⠀

“I don’t have any other options.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

THE TRUTH: You have as many options as you believe you have. Here’s the thing – the possibilities are endless, but it will take work. So the question becomes, how much work are you willing to do to get to where you want to be?

If you’ve been telling yourself one of these lies, today is the day to finally acknowledge the truth! Once you know the truth, it’s so much easier to start moving in the right direction.

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The Settling Cycle: The 5 Phases of Faked Contentment

If I were to ask you if you’ve settled in your career, what would your response be? The hard truth is that most people don’t even realize that not only have they settled, but they’re actually currently stuck in the settling cycle. And it’s this vicious cycle that keeps many professionals from ever achieving career satisfaction.

PHASE 1: “I Want Something New.” 

The self-induced illusion of your phony contentment is finally starting to break. You’ve actually realized that you aren’t happy in your current state and would like something new. But, here comes the fear of the unknown with a dash of anxiety trying to paralyze you and keep you from moving forward.

PHASE 2: “I’m Just Starting To See Some Success, So I Shouldn’t Leave.” 

This is where you start to over embellish whatever small victories have come with your current state. For example, you could be well aware that your current position hasn’t allowed you to utilize most of your talents, knowledge, or skill set. Yet, you might justify this by citing those 3 times in your year with the company that your boss gave you a little creative freedom or the opportunity to take on a small task that you enjoyed. News flash sis, that’s not enough!

PHASE 3: “My Team Really Needs Me Now, So I Shouldn’t Leave.” 

This idea that employees should stay with companies or positions that don’t benefit them or make them happy just because they “need” them is toxic. It’s the same thing as that ex from your past who guilt-tripped their way into trapping you for way longer than necessary. Similarly, you need to just rip the bandaid off and facilitate the “breakup.” The longer you stay, the deeper the attachment. Also, let’s not forget that if your company needed to cut labor costs to reduce overhead, you’d be out the door in an instant. So, let’s not kid ourselves by thinking this is anything more than “just business.”

PHASE 4: “I’m Desperate! Now, I NEED Something New.” 

This is the point where you finally accept that you’ve been procrastinating this entire time and that you should’ve taken that leap long ago. So, you’re freaking out! You’re allowing all these feelings of time wasted and “ever nevers” to push you to your breaking point.

PHASE 5: “I’ll Just Take Whatever I Can Because I Don’t Have Time To Be Picky.” 

There it is. That devil of a predicament where you almost trick yourself into repeating the cycle ALL OVER AGAIN. It’s that “rebound” of jobs. This phase will have you taking any new job opportunity you can, just so that you can have that shallow, short-lived satisfaction of saying, “I left.”

If you’ve found yourself trapped in the settling cycle and would like some assistance freeing yourself, I invite you to join the 200+ others who have grabbed a copy of my 20-page Ultimate Career Guide. Because honestly, it will NEVER be “the right time” until you plan your time RIGHT.

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Common Obstacles to Career Advancement & How They Present

While many people talk about the importance of career advancement, people rarely address the obstacles that arise along the way. Knowing (1) that these obstacles are real and (2) how they present are the first steps in preparing yourself for battle should any of them appear on your purpose path!

Fear “What if things don’t go according to plan?”

Raise your hand if you have ever avoided trying something new due to fear of how it would all turn out. Nobody can predict the future and have certainty of an outcome. However, that shouldn’t stop you from pursuing your passions because if no one ever tried, no one would ever succeed. This sense of anxiety over the unknown is natural, but you shouldn’t let it hinder you. Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game!

Self-Doubt “What if I fail?”

Self-doubt will cause you to quit before you even try. When that doubt starts to creep in, just remember two things: First, it’s okay to not hit every target on the first go-round. Use these opportunities to learn, grow and progress. Second, doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. So just go for it!

Ignorance “I have no idea if my resume and LinkedIn are up to standard.”

There’s truly no excuse for this one in 2021 because there is an abundance of resources available at your fingertips. Whether it’s social media, e-learning, internet searches, or the hired help of an industry expert, use your resources to verify and improve your resume and Linkedin. This will not only optimize your portfolio, but it will give you the needed confidence to tackle your goals!

Complacency “I’m okay where I am.”

While it is totally okay to be happy with your current accomplishments, you should never limit your potential without good reason (ex: taking time to focus on self-care). Be the best that you can be (in all ways) and reap the rewards!

Weight of the Past “Because I didn’t do X, I’ll never be able to do Y.”

Leave the past exactly where it is… IN THE PAST! You should never let your past hold you back from a great future. As the old saying goes, “Sometimes it takes a small setback to breed a bigger comeback.” Use your lessons learned to strengthen you and move forward. Regardless of your past, you have the power to prosper!

These are just a few common obstacles. Have any of them been holding you back? If so, drop me a line, and let’s chat!

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